Friday, June 29, 2007

random thoughts

I don't know why, but using very good verbal manners with her feels right. I didn't know why but I think another blogger said it best, "Learn the language of submission." I have been doing it a long time before I read that, some toungue in cheek with her, others just trying to be mannerly. "May I say ....," "Do you mind if....," "Would you prefer....," It comes very naturally to me, so much so, that sometimes she thinks it is over the top and I am egging her on. But really, I'm not. I really enjoy showing her the respect of good conversation manners.

She actually advanced in her job her recently. I told her everyone is seeing what I already knew, that she is very capable and they should trust her insight, as I am trying to do. I picked her up at lunchtime and ran a couple of errands with her. When we were done, I told her I must be her "Executive Assistant." I liked the analogy greatly, she wanted to shoot me, but I think she did enjoy that I was sincerely proud of her accomplishments, which I am.

The other night, we were intimate, though she did not really want anything proactive done with herself. She wanted me to release in a fun way and as usual, I asked the question, "do you want me to because you think that is what I want you to say or do you really want me to because that is what you want?" I am struck most times by obviously wanting to release versus the fun feeling of being on edge and not coming. She said, "Heres the deal, I am tired of you asking the same question, here is what we are going to do. When we are intimate, always assume that I want you to come, work you way toward that, don't hold back, but when you get close, ask me if you can and I will tell you whether you can or not." Perfect negotiation, now I don't have to wonder whether I should pace myself, just "get after it," but she still has the control on deciding if it happens. I love the arrangement, though I know it will turn into one of those "be careful what you wish for" things, I don't think she has any problem stopping me.

:)

Sunday, June 24, 2007

hanging in there

Living situation still difficult, but managing somehow. We actually went to eat some breakfast Friday night at 10pm. We ended up talking a bunch, including Wife Led stuff. She is still interested, I think she senses my sincerity that it is really in me and not just a passing fantasy. It is so nice to know she is working on it. She even said the other night that she will make a point of telling me things to do instead of being super mannerly when we are alone.

Last night in bed she was asking me how she can "tease" me. The really difficult thing about all this is the man trying to explain to the Woman dynamics of this relationship. I say stupid things like "do anything and everything"....."just the fact that you are orchestrating everything according to your wishes, whims, etc."

Now I'm not sure the smartest person in the world can understand what I am trying to say to her, so I try to point her to some of the blogs, by reading something written by another Lady might be easier to translate the message. Do any of you Ladies have suggestions for her? How do you Tease your husband, not only in the bedroom, but during the day. I tried to explain that the brain is the biggest sex organ and she can use mind games, but again, hard for me to get the point across.

We took a leisurely Sunday afternoon "nap" where there was no napping going on. She did play with me for an hour or so, got me hard constantly without release, I was almost in a trance. I will say that now, an hour later, my nads are really sore, even though she wasn't rough with them, not sure why they are so sore. ( I Googled it and found reason, all is okay)

But, we are moving forward and I know I am happy and I believe she is too, she said she enjoyed the conversation the other night. I know I am more open with her how, it comes easier, I like being open with her..............................so, we keep at it!!

Friday, June 1, 2007

helpmate, could you email with access to your site?